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Sex Coaching

Candessa Hadsall Immerse yourself in your sexual and relational intimacy, and your bliss potential. As your Sex Coach, I begin where you are, and with heartful guidance and support, you will move toward a full, satisfying expression of your sexual self. I offer you sensitivity, acceptance, non-judgment, confidentiality, conscious care and professionalism. My style is a harmonious blend of sexology, conscious communication, relationship counseling, comprehensive sexuality education, feminist psychology, and reverence for the sacredness of sexuality. I work with individuals currently single or in partnership. I request that you bring an open heart and mind, along with your willingness to look at your life and your relationships. You will move away from dualistic thinking and toward a full, satisfying expression of your sexual self as you integrate body, mind and soul into a life of sensuous living.

To create an appointment, call the school at 612-825-0886.

What is Sex Coaching?

Sex coaching is a mix of these elements:

Personalized sexuality information and education
Redirective cognitive processes and mental reframing
Emotional balancing
Intuitive guidance
Behavioral training
Support for you to create the goals you desire
Resources and referrals as necessary

How does Sex Coaching Involve You?

Sex coaching addresses all parts of you:

Mind: Information. Your "self-talk"; thinking about sexual performance; the capacity for intimacy; and any troubling thought patterns, such as compulsivity. Your beliefs, values and attitudes toward sex, sexuality and relationships.

Emotions: Feelings. Feelings that you carry from the past, feelings about your body and body image - what you suppress and express. How you express your emotions. Your capacity for intimacy.

Body and Body Image Issues: Your physical self. Knowing how your own sexual pattern works; understanding your own body's sexual architecture and function; acknowledging your own sexual functions and dysfunctions. Learning skills for how to be a successful lover alone or with a partner.

Energy: Sexual and life energy are the same! Looking at patterns of expressing energy - the buildup, containment and expression of energy. This is an often-overlooked area of sexuality.

Spirit: The essence of self and your experience with Spirit/Higher Power. Experiences of ecstasy or practices that transcend the moment, such as peak orgasms. Sacred sexuality - the path of sex to experience the Divine or God/Goddess. The more subtle and delicate manner in which people deny or reflect their inner self through sexuality.

What Is My Philosophy?

I provide a safe, shame-free environment where vulnerability, awkwardness and sexual questioning are welcome. You cannot impress or disappoint me. I am not your judge. I am not your sex object. I support your needs for intimacy and human connection and will teach you skills to better meet those needs. I am your advocate.

What Are My Methods?

I use cognitive and bodily awareness, breathing and relaxation techniques. I listen to your sexual questions. I ask you questions that help focus your goals. Together we create exercises and experiences, both in and out of sessions, which help you reach your goals. I respect any boundary you set although I do ask you to push against yours for the sake of growing. I believe in the wisdom of your erotic self-knowledge. My goal is to help you deepen your pleasure and self-love so that you can honor your own life force's beauty more fully and, from that grounded place, connect more deeply with others.

What Are Some Things You Might Learn?

(this is not a comprehensive list!)

New ways to pleasure yourself, exploring why you self-pleasure and how you can get more satisfaction
Learn what's involved in creating a self-love meditation
Work on a more positive body image
Learn how to feel the connection between your heart and your genitals
Discover how to consciously circulate erotic energy throughout your body
Learn how to better communicate your sexual feelings and desires with a partner

What Are the Fees?

Fees are set at $125/55 minute talk-only session and pro-rated for longer or shorter sessions. Payment in cash is expected at the beginning of each session. If finances are a problem for you, a sliding fee scale and payment plans are available. For telephone sessions, payment is required by check in advance.

How Do Sessions Work?

Most sessions are conducted in person. Some are conducted by telephone, which can be highly effective. Most sessions are about an hour in length. I assist many clients to successfully address their immediate concerns in one session. Most clients, however, desire to schedule a series of sessions to reach their goal(s). Sessions may be scheduled for once a week or less frequently depending on your schedule, my availability, and your needs for sex coaching.

After the first session I will ask you to write up your personal goals and bring them to the second session. I ask you to articulate, as best you can, exactly what it will look and feel like when you achieve each of those goals, and we will work from there. At that time you will sign a contract. Please feel free to ask me any questions.

What Results Can You Expect?

It is your attention to the work that we do together and the occasional homeplay assignments that you are given that will determine the results that you achieve. You will create the outcome you choose.

Thanks to Patti Britton ["The Art of Sex Coaching"] for her inspiration to do this work.

Upcoming Classes & Events

Click links for descriptions in the Classes section.

Ecstatic Dance
2nd Saturdays, Aug 9, Sep 13, Oct 11

Osho Brunch
4th Sundays, Aug 24, Sep 28, Oct 26

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